BTS's RM on the Pressure of Marriage and Having Kids

BTS's RM has once again attracted attention with his honest views on marriage and personal life. In a recent live broadcast on the Weverse platform, the man whose real name is Kim Nam Joon spoke at length about the social pressures that many people, especially women, often experience.

The social pressure that RM refers to concerns discussions about marriage and having children. RM believes that the pressure to get married quickly is still a real thing in modern society, both from the surrounding environment and the media.

"I think a lot of people are under pressure, especially women," RM said on  Koreaboo, on Monday October 6, 2025. He highlighted how women are often the targets of comments that link age and status to the obligation to marry or have children.

According to him, such social expectations make many people live under pressure and lose control over their own life path. "It feels like we're all being squeezed into a mold. But honestly, I just wish everyone could live at their own pace. 

There's no one right answer to this," he continued. RM also touched on the reasons behind some people's decisions to marry. He admitted that he disagrees with the view that marriage can be a way out of loneliness.

"From my perspective, if someone can't stand being alone and gets married, will that improve things? Because when you're married, there will be times when you want to be alone... that's a natural human instinct," he explained.

For RM, a person's ability to feel comfortable alone is actually an important asset in being able to build a healthy relationship. "People who are comfortable being alone can also be good partners when they're with others.

Choosing marriage to escape loneliness... I'm not sure that's the right approach," he added. On the same occasion, the Butter singer also shared his thoughts on the decision to have children. RM admitted he still feels unprepared, even to take care of himself. 

"I'm often overwhelmed taking care of myself now, so I'm not sure I can take care of my children at the same time," he said. He emphasized that everyone has different perspectives and experiences regarding marriage and family. 

There is no right or wrong position between those who marry and those who choose not to. "Those who are married can speak from their perspective, and those who are not married can also speak from their own experiences. 

We just need to listen to each other. In a way, our generation, born in the 90s, was the first generation in Korea to see marriage as a choice. Therefore, I believe we should all follow our respective choices," RM concluded.